Use These 3 Secrets To Make 2012 A Banner Year For Your Marriage

Marriages have their ups and downs. There's no way to deny that. But, did you know that it's possible to make one year a truly remarkable year in the history of your marriage? If you follow the right steps it's possible to make sure that this year is better than any other you've experienced so far. But wait – there's more!

The more you use these secrets in your marriage, the better it will get over time. This means that 2012 will be a banner year but it's just the beginning of bigger and better things yet to come for your marriage. First, you must begin.

Treat Your Marriage Like a Partnership

Marriage is about two people becoming one. But, you're both bringing your own expectations, thoughts, and feelings into the situation. You're not becoming one individual robot. You're becoming a partnership. You need to treat your marriage like this in all the major decisions that affect you and your spouse. You can't make unilateral decisions anymore about finances, savings, futures, etc.

It's time to leave behind the mindset of 'me' and adopt the mental status of 'we'. It will make a huge difference in how you communicate with your spouse and how happy both of you are with the state of your marriage.

Have an Actionable Plan for 2012 (and beyond)

You need to have a plan that you've created together and are both working to achieve throughout 2012. This plan needs to have several small goals that you can celebrate along the way as well as a much bigger goal that you can work towards together.

It needs to be something you can both take action to accomplish and that doesn't require the participation or compliance of others in order to achieve. It also needs to be something that you CAN accomplish. You want this to be a bonding experience that unites you not a bitter disappointment that divides you. That being said, it needs to be something aggressive enough to make you both work for it too.

Give to Your Spouse Without Expecting Something in Return

While you don't want to be the only one 'giving' in the relationship, you can't expect a tit for tat situation in your marriage. Don't expect something in return when you give to your spouse – not if you want to be happy about giving. Be careful of even expecting a specific response or you run the risk of feeling disappointed or 'let down' by your spouse's lack of reaction.

Give to your spouse for the simple pleasure it brings you to do something you believe will add a little joy to his or her life. When your spouse does return the favor or gives to you without expecting something in return, remember to accept with a grateful heart and a cheerful disposition.

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